If you live in Lagos, you know this role well. We raise people to be strong here. Strong daughters, strong mothers, strong breadwinners, strong friend. We celebrate endurance so much that we forget to ask what it costs.
Here’s the truth most of us don’t want to hear: in a city like ours, the work doesn’t finish. One project ends and another is already queuing behind it. If rest only begins when everything is done, rest never begins.
There’s a version of “high-performing” that looks impressive from the outside and feels like quiet exhaustion on the inside. You know the person first to arrive, last to leave, always available on WhatsApp, replies to emails promptly, the best at his or her job and never quite switching off.
The Year begins with two kinds of people, different goals, different approach to life and different ways they want to live their lives.
The first set we would consider to be; **The Calm Ones**
They’re quietly living life and taking things as they come. This set of people know what works and what doesn’t. They do not worry so much about life because it looks steady for them.
Every few month, there’s a new “detox” trend online.
One week it’s a tea that promises to “flush out toxins.” The next week it’s a 3-day liquid cleanse that claims to “clean your system completely.”
